Do you let your adult kids move back in?

Before you allow your adult children to move back into the home, you need to ask yourself a series of questions to determine if it is a good idea. It is very important that you try to approach the situation logically instead of based on the emotions that are tugging at you about the situation.

Can a 30 year old move out of a home?

Maybe you heard about the 30-year-old New York man whose parents, tired of politely and repeatedly asking their unemployed son to move out of their home, took him to court in May to legally evict him — and won. That case was extreme.

When is it time to let your child move out?

You may be happy to have your child for three months, but if you know it’s going to be another year or two before they can get out on their own again then you may need to consider alternative options. What are your child’s other options? There are options for everyone.

Can a child move in with a family member?

There are options for everyone. Some may be able to move in with roommates or other family members, whereas others only have homeless shelters or rehab as an option … but there is always an option. Identify what all of the other options are, and ask yourself honestly whether any of those options would be better for your child, as well as for you.

When to move away from your adult children?

Remember: There is usually a third act for most of us. Moving away from your adult children now, in your second act, might make sense if you consider moving closer to them in later years — if your health declines and you are no longer independent. Make sure you and your significant other are on the same page about all of this.

When to distance yourself from your adult children?

If you decide that distancing yourself from your adult children makes sense, consider renting for a year instead of buying a home, just in case the surprising news of a first grandchild on the way changes your mind.

Maybe you heard about the 30-year-old New York man whose parents, tired of politely and repeatedly asking their unemployed son to move out of their home, took him to court in May to legally evict him — and won. That case was extreme.

Why does my child want to move back in with Me?

Another situation could be that a child who was away at college is now done with school and doesn’t know where to live. Still another is that your child has been somewhat of a slacker for years, bouncing in and out of your home.