How do I stop being insecure about my boyfriends ex?

What to Do When You feel Insecure About Your Boyfriend’s Ex

1. First, figure out if the ex is trying to make you jealous.
2. Figure out exactly what about her makes you jealous.
3. Observe what part of yourself you don’t like.
4. Accept that part of yourself unconditionally.
5. Remember that your partner chose you.

What happens if your boyfriend has a past?

If any aspect of your boyfriend’s past was different, he would be a completely different human being. Pause and consider that for a moment. And what’s more: if your boyfriend was a different human being, you might not be attracted to him at all. I’m serious.

Why do I get jealous of my boyfriend’s past?

Retroactive jealousy is usually based on insecurity. Take a long look in the mirror the next time you have the instinct to go snooping into your boyfriend’s past. 2.) When we date someone, we take the good with the bad. Same with your boyfriend’s past. This is an idea I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.

How to deal with your partner’s past behavior?

If they’re telling you about it, it’s probably because they care enough about you to be upfront. Remember that. They’re being honest, which gives you license to be honest about your feelings about it. Just try to be aware of when you’re sharing your feelings and when you’re irrationally blaming your partner for hurting you with their past behavior.

Do you have to worry about your partner’s past?

Just because someone has a promiscuous past doesn’t necessarily mean you have to worry about their insatiable sexual appetite. They may have been sowing their wild oats. And now they’re all “sown” up.

Why do some people talk about their past boyfriends?

These can include snooping through a partner’s personal belongings, looking for evidence of their past sexual partners or boyfriends. Many sufferers of retroactive jealousy OCD, also like to talk to their partner about the past, pick fights, make snide comments, accuse them of being sluts, etc.

What to do if your boyfriend has a bad past?

Or, more realistically, we can accept that there is a bad occasionally challenging emotion that might come up for us as a result of their attractive qualities. Stop convincing yourself to forget about your boyfriend because he attracts others, too. Above all: trust your boyfriend until he gives you a reason (or reasons) not to.

How to deal with your partner’s past issues?

They should consult a mental health professional about managing their anger. Bring up your feelings in a calm, respectful manner. Avoid bringing up something from their past in the midst of an argument. When you’re both calm and in good moods, ask them to talk. Tell them something’s been bothering you, and you want to be honest with them about it.

Retroactive jealousy is usually based on insecurity. Take a long look in the mirror the next time you have the instinct to go snooping into your boyfriend’s past. 2.) When we date someone, we take the good with the bad. Same with your boyfriend’s past. This is an idea I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.