What did my daughters do in high school?

It’s a win-win for both of us!” My daughters, Jennifer and Nicole, participated in cross-country track in high school,” says Denise. “I was never a runner — or any sort of athlete — and I would watch them in awe and think, How can they just keep going?

What kind of relationship does a mother have with her daughter?

1. Dismissive “My mother ignored me,” Gwen, 47, confides. “If I did something that I thought would make her proud, she would either dismiss it as insignificant or undercut it in some other way. And I believed her for the longest time.” Daughters raised by dismissive mothers doubt the validity of their own emotional needs.

What makes a mother unavailable to her daughter?

Unavailable Emotionally unavailable mothers, those who actively withdraw at a daughter’s approach or who withhold love from one child while granting it to another, inflict a different kind of damage. Be mindful that all children are hardwired to rely on their mothers thanks to evolution.

How is the unloved daughter different from the attuned daughter?

Persuading us that it is safe to expose our early fragile beginning-to-grow true self.” The unloved daughter hears something very different and takes away another lesson entirely. Unlike the daughter of an attuned mother who grows in reflected light, the unloved daughter is diminished by the connection.

Persuading us that it is safe to expose our early fragile beginning-to-grow true self.” The unloved daughter hears something very different and takes away another lesson entirely. Unlike the daughter of an attuned mother who grows in reflected light, the unloved daughter is diminished by the connection.

1. Dismissive “My mother ignored me,” Gwen, 47, confides. “If I did something that I thought would make her proud, she would either dismiss it as insignificant or undercut it in some other way. And I believed her for the longest time.” Daughters raised by dismissive mothers doubt the validity of their own emotional needs.

Unavailable Emotionally unavailable mothers, those who actively withdraw at a daughter’s approach or who withhold love from one child while granting it to another, inflict a different kind of damage. Be mindful that all children are hardwired to rely on their mothers thanks to evolution.

What is the untangling enmeshment of a mother-daughter relationship?

Untangling enmeshment—the term alone conveys the difficulty—is another road entirely because of the absence of boundaries. A healthy and attuned maternal relationship offers security and freedom to roam at once—the infant is released from her mother’s arms to crawl, the adolescent counseled but listened to and respected—and this pattern does not.